My hubby of 7 years cheated, lied, physically and emotionally abused me. He cheated for years before I found out, and then came the violence. In the meantime he tore me down so badly I felt that it wasn't that bad. Now I am going through the divorce and am realizing how bad it really was. My question is...My husband makes a lot of money and has piled a ton of debt on me but told me he would only offer to give me a small amount that won't even begin to cover everything, does he deserve to be taken to the cleaners? Is he trying to just tear me down some more? What to do?
Answers:
1. Take him to the cleaners hunny!!
Get the best divorce lawyer you can find.
2. Hire a really good lawyer.
Then start to rebuild your self esteem and realize that you are a beautiful woman who deserves only the best in a man. Then do not settle for anything less than the best.
Good luck. I will pray for you.
3. Hire an attorney and take him to the cleaners. If he's lucky, he'll be granted his clothes and only because you don't want them. That's what I did to my ex.
4. Marital debt like marital assets is 50/50. You can't take him to cleaners...you owe for half of the debt whether you like it or not.
5. To begin with don't try anything without an attorney. Have your attorney request that your husband be responsible for any and all bills that he created. Also for adjustments to the reasons behind the divorce, request that he be responsible for your attorney fees. You don't mention if there are any children involved but depending on the amount of money that he makes, you can bet that he will get hit hard there as well. You also do not mention what state that you are divorcing in. If California or any other state that allows for alimony, then you should be awarded something there as well. Simply let your attorney handle it and I'm sure that you won't be disappointed. Few women are. As far as "taking him to the cleaners," be careful there. As some women may think that taking the house through divorce is great revenge, just remember.... That along with the house will be taxes, insurance, repairs, general maintenance, utilities and the list continues. Sometimes it's better just to let go of the house and keep what is inside of it. Also sometimes it is far greater revenge to remember that " What comes around, goes around." Meaning that at some point everything that he has done will catch up with him. Good luck.
6. It's only money and there is such a thing as bancruptcy that will lay all that debt back in his lap! How bad do you want the divorce?
Of course he is still going to exercise his almighty control over you. It worked for him in the past didn't it?
I do hope you have an attorney? If not, get one.
7. you need to get what you deserve, so you need to fight for your fair share!!!
don't let this man make you struggle unnecessarily! make sure you bring up the abuse and cheating. that should help. good luck to you
8. Get a lawyer and let the judge decide. Then sleep with clean conscience and move on.
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