Okay so, I guess apparently my g/f we've been going out 8 months now, and been having sex for like 4-5 so. Anyways she comes out and tells me that she is having intense pain in your stomach, burning in her stomach, on fire she says, and says her kidneys feel swollen. She also said its because sex, and that she didn't wanna tell me but I guess she's been having bladder infections and thinks one of the reasons is sex. Now she is like we cant have sex, and sex is big thing in our relationship. I got a little upset, and wanna explain that had she told me earlier (she said she was embarassed) we could of worked it out and took steps to avoid this. How should I approach this i talkted to her today but it seems like no sex is the answer 1st time talking about it today, and she says we have to wait... i said it might be long time... she said yes? and i got mad at her i was like this is easy way to start ending the relationship to use this as excuse. What do you think guys?
Answers:
1. your relationship is more than just sex. If you really value the relationship, you can get over that and love her for the PERSON, not just sex!
2. She needs to see a doctor. You should go by what the doctor says to her. If it is because of sex and there is something true to what she said, then wait it out, but otherwise she is beginning a break-up and you should get out.
3. She may well have a bladder infection which is not uncommon when woman have a lot of sex in a short time frame. A course of antibiotics will clear that up in a week or two.
She could start drinking cranberry juice to help flush it out while waiting to the medication to kick in.
4. It's up to you, do you like her sex or do you like her.
5. I think you are very young and being inconsiderate. She needs to see a doctor. And if sex is all you want, do her a favor and move on.
6. If she is slutty enough to put out within 3 months, than there really is no excuse for saying no now, dump her and find another all American girl.
7. I think you're being ridiculously selfish. If she's having intense pain and burning it could be an STD ( that maybe you gave her) it means she needs to go to a doctor immediately. Which, yes, could mean no sex until she gets better. If you cared at all about her you would be supportive and be more concerned about her health and well being instead of worrying about whether you're going to be getting any.
Be ashamed.
8. stomach burning has nothing to do with sex. there is something behing that excuse. maybe she doesn't like the way you 2 are having sex. maybe she wants something different. try to talk to her, not to be pushy, show affection and understanding for a little while and then after, talk to her about what is going on, but maybe give her some time
9. Dude! If she's sick, she's sick. Don't be a selfish a**hole. Wait until she's better.
10. Instead of being concerned with sex, why don't you go get a check up?!??!?!?!?!??!? It seems like you care more about sex than you do about your girlfriend's health, much less yours! GROW UP! Sex isn't everything! And no one will want to have sex with you if you have an STD anyway........ Disgusting.
11. If sex is the most important thing in your relationship, than there is no relationship you are not worth her love. If you cannot be sensitive to her health then you are a selfish person looking out only for yourself. Sexual infections are very painful, and if you had the fun then you should be there when she needs you, if not, don't waste her time YOU ARE NOT WORTH IT
12. You are being really insensitive. If it is causing her pain, why would you want to press the issue. If you care about her don't pressure, yet at the same time I know that you might feel horny sometimes but figure out ways to help speed up the process of her recovery. Maybe do research on the infection and look for ways that will heal her.
And that will make her feel like you really care about her and her well being, which is gonna score you sex points.
( Yeah I know good advice. Now give me those ten points for best answer)
13. Tell her to go to a doctor and get checked out. If she doesn't have money, tell her to go to the emergency room at the local hospital or call a local planned parenthood. She can get checked out completely very cheap or free, for now at least. The ER can bill her for it. If she says no to getting checked out, then you know the issue is deeper than that. Good luck to you. Always wear your rubbers man!!
14. Don't panic, doesn't mean you are not going to have sex again. It means she needs to go to the doctor and get her urine checked, she may also have an issue with bacteria(that happens sometimes) or a yeast infection. Why don't you accompany her. She needs to go into the examination room herself, but, your support might be helpful. This way you'll hear the news right away and show that you care by sitting and waiting for her. You will most likely have to put off sexual relationship for 7-10 days, or however long she has to take medication. But that doesn't mean you can't be affectionate with each other or stop kissing and hugging each other. That's important too!
15. first, I'm worry about her. i think you should , too!!
she should go to see a doctor, if she willing to, you can company her, but if she doesn't, you don't.
Her symptom can be true, might be from stress, it can be just excuse.
One thing is for sure is something is wrong !!
talk to her!
16. In a relationship, companionship and understanding is of more importance than you getting laid.
Try to understand the situation what she is undergoing right now. She needs you more than you needing her (for sex - to say the least). Anyway, you should try to divert your attention and not give in to your libido and go into a copulation. Instead, you can just have an act of "self-gratification", if you know what I mean. If you get tired of doing your own thing, you can still have sex with her though. You could always do away with her doing you. I mean, having her gratifying you with her hands and some other bodily parts. No mouth. No penetration. As it gives you the risk of getting an infection. You might get infected.
Further still, have your self checked as you might have contacted an infection.
Hope for the best.
17. I think that if you care for her and want to be with her for her and not just because you can have sex with her that you should respect her wishes. She is having pain and is worried about her health. And I'm guessing she is young so being embarrassed about talking to some one about problems and infections going on in her vagina would be that way for anyone she talked to. Especially if that person is her boyfriend. Giving her stress because she doesn't want to have sex will not help you. Maybe taking this break will change things so that sex is not such a major part of a relationship. There is more to people and relationships then just their genitals. If you are feeling like you need sex that bad maybe a relationship is not for you right now. You may need some time alone to have your fun just remember to stay safe if you are thinking about going that route.
18. Bladder infections can be caused through sex. She needs t o talk to her Dr. but also, she needs to go pee within 20 Min's after sex to avoid it. Also, you need to make sure you are "clean" when having sex. Have you been circumcised? Pain in the stomach during sex could be endomitriosis. It is horrible pain but the only way they can check for sure is by having minor surgury. It is VERY common and can cause intense pain during sex She needs to be clear with her Dr. about when she is having the pain and make sure she does not get brushed off. I did for about 7 years before I found the Dr. who actually checked it out. If I had been more forceful about it I may have gotten it taken care of much sooner and had the kick *** sex I do now. But as far as you two you should dump her for her sake since you don't really care about her. Stop wasting her time but if you are not a completely heartless jackass you will give her all of these peoples advice and make her go see a Dr. ASAP. and wash yourself before you give some other girl cooties.
19. your relationship is more than just sex. If you really value the relationship, you can get over that and love her for the PERSON, not just sex!
20. She needs to see a doctor. You should go by what the doctor says to her. If it is because of sex and there is something true to what she said, then wait it out, but otherwise she is beginning a break-up and you should get out.
21. She may well have a bladder infection which is not uncommon when woman have a lot of sex in a short time frame. A course of antibiotics will clear that up in a week or two.
She could start drinking cranberry juice to help flush it out while waiting to the medication to kick in.
22. It's up to you, do you like her sex or do you like her.
23. I think you are very young and being inconsiderate. She needs to see a doctor. And if sex is all you want, do her a favor and move on.
24. If she is slutty enough to put out within 3 months, than there really is no excuse for saying no now, dump her and find another all American girl.
25. I think you're being ridiculously selfish. If she's having intense pain and burning it could be an STD ( that maybe you gave her) it means she needs to go to a doctor immediately. Which, yes, could mean no sex until she gets better. If you cared at all about her you would be supportive and be more concerned about her health and well being instead of worrying about whether you're going to be getting any.
Be ashamed.
26. stomach burning has nothing to do with sex. there is something behing that excuse. maybe she doesn't like the way you 2 are having sex. maybe she wants something different. try to talk to her, not to be pushy, show affection and understanding for a little while and then after, talk to her about what is going on, but maybe give her some time
27. Dude! If she's sick, she's sick. Don't be a selfish a**hole. Wait until she's better.
28. Instead of being concerned with sex, why don't you go get a check up?!??!?!?!?!??!? It seems like you care more about sex than you do about your girlfriend's health, much less yours! GROW UP! Sex isn't everything! And no one will want to have sex with you if you have an STD anyway........ Disgusting.
29. If sex is the most important thing in your relationship, than there is no relationship you are not worth her love. If you cannot be sensitive to her health then you are a selfish person looking out only for yourself. Sexual infections are very painful, and if you had the fun then you should be there when she needs you, if not, don't waste her time YOU ARE NOT WORTH IT
30. You are being really insensitive. If it is causing her pain, why would you want to press the issue. If you care about her don't pressure, yet at the same time I know that you might feel horny sometimes but figure out ways to help speed up the process of her recovery. Maybe do research on the infection and look for ways that will heal her.
And that will make her feel like you really care about her and her well being, which is gonna score you sex points.
( Yeah I know good advice. Now give me those ten points for best answer)
31. Tell her to go to a doctor and get checked out. If she doesn't have money, tell her to go to the emergency room at the local hospital or call a local planned parenthood. She can get checked out completely very cheap or free, for now at least. The ER can bill her for it. If she says no to getting checked out, then you know the issue is deeper than that. Good luck to you. Always wear your rubbers man!!
32. Don't panic, doesn't mean you are not going to have sex again. It means she needs to go to the doctor and get her urine checked, she may also have an issue with bacteria(that happens sometimes) or a yeast infection. Why don't you accompany her. She needs to go into the examination room herself, but, your support might be helpful. This way you'll hear the news right away and show that you care by sitting and waiting for her. You will most likely have to put off sexual relationship for 7-10 days, or however long she has to take medication. But that doesn't mean you can't be affectionate with each other or stop kissing and hugging each other. That's important too!
33. first, I'm worry about her. i think you should , too!!
she should go to see a doctor, if she willing to, you can company her, but if she doesn't, you don't.
Her symptom can be true, might be from stress, it can be just excuse.
One thing is for sure is something is wrong !!
talk to her!
34. In a relationship, companionship and understanding is of more importance than you getting laid.
Try to understand the situation what she is undergoing right now. She needs you more than you needing her (for sex - to say the least). Anyway, you should try to divert your attention and not give in to your libido and go into a copulation. Instead, you can just have an act of "self-gratification", if you know what I mean. If you get tired of doing your own thing, you can still have sex with her though. You could always do away with her doing you. I mean, having her gratifying you with her hands and some other bodily parts. No mouth. No penetration. As it gives you the risk of getting an infection. You might get infected.
Further still, have your self checked as you might have contacted an infection.
Hope for the best.
35. I think that if you care for her and want to be with her for her and not just because you can have sex with her that you should respect her wishes. She is having pain and is worried about her health. And I'm guessing she is young so being embarrassed about talking to some one about problems and infections going on in her vagina would be that way for anyone she talked to. Especially if that person is her boyfriend. Giving her stress because she doesn't want to have sex will not help you. Maybe taking this break will change things so that sex is not such a major part of a relationship. There is more to people and relationships then just their genitals. If you are feeling like you need sex that bad maybe a relationship is not for you right now. You may need some time alone to have your fun just remember to stay safe if you are thinking about going that route.
36. Bladder infections can be caused through sex. She needs t o talk to her Dr. but also, she needs to go pee within 20 Min's after sex to avoid it. Also, you need to make sure you are "clean" when having sex. Have you been circumcised? Pain in the stomach during sex could be endomitriosis. It is horrible pain but the only way they can check for sure is by having minor surgury. It is VERY common and can cause intense pain during sex She needs to be clear with her Dr. about when she is having the pain and make sure she does not get brushed off. I did for about 7 years before I found the Dr. who actually checked it out. If I had been more forceful about it I may have gotten it taken care of much sooner and had the kick *** sex I do now. But as far as you two you should dump her for her sake since you don't really care about her. Stop wasting her time but if you are not a completely heartless jackass you will give her all of these peoples advice and make her go see a Dr. ASAP. and wash yourself before you give some other girl cooties.
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