Me and my boyfriend just broke up. We have been together for 4 years, how can I get over something like that?

1. We're here for you but you gotta wait it out. Time will take care of all your problems. Don't degrade yourself by sinking into a deep depression. Be strong.

2. Its going to be very hard to get over him no doubt. Its going to take a long time as well. Just try looking at different guys and try meeting new ones. If u 2 are ment for each other u 2 will get back. If not try somebody new. You probably always love him though.

3. Hey try not to be upset. I know its hard & i cant imagine if me and my girlfriend break up now after 4 years too. Keep your head up high & if its broken up for good then just wait till you find that guy you'll be with forever. =) Goodluck!

4. Im sorry but its gonna take time. Try and keep busy, occupy yourself with other stuff. Take up something that takes up your time and makes you tired therefor you wont think about him and when you get home you go straight to bed...

5. Hang out with your friends, constantly do things you love to do and really get your mind off things. For me, I hit the gym, play some basketball or hang out with my buddies and it really is a stress reliever. Your true friends should be there for you when your in need of some help.

6. go & talk to him, be frank

7. Its hard to lose someone you love so much... I really suggest you get some support from your friends to get back on your feet. First, go and have a good cry and tell yourself that after this, you will pick up the pieces and move on. Second, get your friends to help you get in the right direction. I'm sure within a couple of weeks, you'll be on your way to a normal life again. You will find yourself thinking about him every now and then, but you must be strong and move on. Good luck .... It took me alot of Mr. Wrong to find my Mr. Right :)

8. Its hard but you will see you will get over him just hang in there it's ok to cry

9. me too facing the same problem...i also do not know how to advice you.i somemore worse as i still need to meet him in office.by the way,i also not sure whether we are already non-verbal breakup. the main thing could be i refuse to fulfill his request to give my most precious thing to him.but on the other hand,he told me if one day we break,it could be because my attitude.I did not reply his sms that day and he still have not sms me back.its was already more than 4 days.i guess he do not want but the main is just i refuse to have sex with him. What i can advise you,just forget those people that hurts us.he would not know even we sad for him and it is not worth it. do not jeopardize your health just because of someone who do not loves us anymore.we deserve someone better. Just forget about him and continue with our life. Good luck

10. Sweetheart, think of the pros. Why did u break up? There were obviously some unresolvable issues. You will see the point. I have been there, never thought I'd wanna see the light of day. Know that everything happens for a reason. Take time to love urself. Do your hair, nails, do something u really like. You used to have a life, get it back.

11. This is only if you are really serious though: First, cry til you cant cry anymore. Go somewhere and be alone without any outside distractions, and let it all out. all the frustration, anger, etc... Do it til it hurts and that you dont want to cry anymore. Second, get rid of all those pictures, cute notes, shoebox of memories, ways of viewing his myspace/aim/cell phone. basically cut him off and cut off ways of contacting him. Third, dont listen to sad songs. when one comes on, change it. They only serve as reminders. Fourth, make yourself really busy. School, work, friends, family members you havent seen in a while, etc... (just go make visits and spend time and hang out and have fun) *and if be so neccessary, get yourself a re-bound.

12. Reason with yourself. Why did he break up with you? Different life paths? Unhappiness? If the relationship was not working why would you want to be in it? If he was the unhappy one, try to talk it through with him. If its usually u who gets back together with him, do it this time. If its him, then think back at situations that made him get back to you. Think logically over the past, ask yourself questions, figure it out. Once you do, I think you will become wiser and understand why it didnt work and what are the benefits of that. If it didnt work out, It was never meant to. That means there is another person for you, who would be a better partner. God has cleared way of your ex so this new man (wherever he is) will come to you.

13. Even though it feels like the end of the world, it really isn't. The best way I have found to deal with a break up is to keep busy ... very busy. Try not to give yourself much time on your own where you would usually think about the past and make yourself feel worse. Surround yourself with friends and family and force yourself to make an effort to get out the house. It will be a struggle, but gradually the happier you are pretending to be and the more enjoyable things you do, you will eventually realise this is not the end of the world. Also, if you can enjoy yourself being single, then the more attractive you are to others and you'll find your life picks up and you actually enjoy yourself. Good luck. P.s. I don't believe there is just one person out there for you, there are many. So your knight in shining armour may be just round the corner.

14. I'm sorry your going through this. I know it's not very easy, and at times it feels like you just want to die! It's going to hurt for awhile and you may never truelly get over this. But time does marvouls things. If it's super bad, then you might want to talk to someone. You probably need to talk about it. For me, i could never be alone..i even took my MOM with my to a friends grad party!! That's how bad it was, i couldnt drive, cuz i lost train of thought. A break up is never good...for the mind or heart. If you need to talk to someone, feel free to email me. But know that it will be painful right now, but all you can do is let time heal your heart. For me, i listened to music, i wrote in my diary, i talked things (vent) with my family. And eventually i was able to go out with my friends...and eventually he wasnt want i thought about 24/7. Though i still think about him everday, i dont cry anymore, i try to cry, but no tears come out. You will one day overcome this. Heartbreak is one of lifes toughest lessons. It's not going to be easy, but i have faith that you'll meet someone new one day. For now, let those tears flow, and talk it out if it helps. Good luck sweetie! I'm sorry your going through a rough time. But things will get better, i promise you that.

15. When you say, this time it was so bad, what does that mean. did he abuse you or cheat on you. You have to tell us a bit of what really went on. Most happy, loving couples don't break up? sorry I can not answer without more detail.

16. couples (people) who are dumb enough to break up and get back together and so on..will end up together. mostly unhappily ever after. anyways, i was in a 4 year relationship. don't worry. your whole life is not over. infact, it's just beginning. trust me, it's not easy being single after a long relationship. but, you'll get to know who you are. enjoy your life. get to know your friends again. a person changes alot in 4 years. so find out how much you've changed. it'll feel good to be on your own. by the way, if it's really over this time, and whenever you do move on, don't let his jealousy take over your new love life. they tend to get irrational. so just be you, and you'll be fine.

17. This person still likes you and so do you. The problem is that you can't get over someone who has been your boyfriend for 4 years. Its just a temperary break up.

18. i understand you because i've been in that situation, you must to learn to hate him and all your memories so that you would get over with that feeling and move on with your life. try to measure everything, the disadvantages and advantages of having him. i know four years is so hard to loose but you have to let it go especially when you know that it's no longer working. everything happens for a reason, if you're apart today, maybe someday God will give a way to both of you.. leave everything to God, He knows what is best for us.. don't cry coz true love never dies

19. Go to a 12 step meeting for Co dependents. It is free and it will help you through this pain of losing someone and moving forward. First of all don't make another person your life you will always be let down. You make your life. 12 step is free. Look on internet for meetings in your area. The people that attend are very much like you and you can find out how they recovered.

20. think of his badpoints.think of how badly he treated you. if he didn't love you already why love him? u are born alone. u die alone. people come and go. just think of how u live before u know him. continue with me, or find a replacement, go clubbing have fun. find people to have fun with u. easier said den done i knoe. pls be brave. i know how u felt. is terrible. but one dae. u will be ok...

21. I am sorry about your brakeup. If you love him a lot, you have done everything then why you fought with him, say he's always right. I never seen you or him, if someone insult you or have brokeup many times like you said then you must leave him, what if you have babies and you love him a lot and he left you and found someone else, i am not saying better then you. just got intrested in someone else. I must say please don't ruin your life for someone who hurt you or leave you in any state. Everyone has rights to live a healthy life so it will take some time, rememmber one thing, time moves wether he's with you or not. Take a deep breath and think once for your self, you're not a doll.

22. First go easy on the pills, they can be addictive & that will only add to your troubles. The last thing you need! When your life takes a severe blow like this it is important to accept that this is a change & things will be different. From here the good news is that you decide what those changes will be. It will take time to seethings clearly. This is because when a relationship ends it's like an auto-wreck, you're in shock. So you're doing the right thing by keeping busy. Make sure you mix with friends & family & try to have some fun. Next take care of yourself. Eat your meals, drink plenty (avoid alcohol for the time being, it will just make you feel worse) & take some pride in yourself. It won't make the pain go away. Nothing can do that like snapping your fingers, although I'm sure you wish it could. But you have the rest of your life to go. So doing the basics right from here on will help you feel a whole lot better. If you don't take care of yourself you'll feel bad & add that to where you're at & you'll have a cocktail of problems to solve. OK, OK, I sound like "mother hen" - but I know that if you take care, a little pride is good, then you'll come through this with less hassle than might otherwise be the case. That love you had will be causing pain, but, crazy as this sounds, be a little grateful for that. It shows how much you can care for someone & with that much love to give you will rebuild your life & be the stronger for this experience - although that will seem like an eternity away right now. A little time, day by day, (baby steps) mix with good friends, have busy days, & some fun along the way (the smiles will get easier without you realising it!) & before long you'll be looking back without some much fear & sadness.

23. Stop taking pills! That is a dangerous crutch to start using. You will sleep at some point, don't start using medications (unless it's benadryl) to sleep. Trust me, this like all things that suck, will pass. Try to imagine how you were ever happy before this dude. It happened right?? It will happen again, it just takes time to kick the habit of this douche. Stay Away from him for a while, spend time doing things you like. Of course i'm a man, what the hell do I know?!?