Everytime I see her my heart drops. It's more than lust; I'm attracted to her spirit and her personality. I want to hold her hand and walk on the beach. Yes, I got it like that for her. Do I tell her how I feel? I'm not sure if she even like girls (I'm bisexual by the way). She has never mentioned men at all. A friend of mine thinks that she is gay. With all the speculation aside; how do I tell her? Should I? I want to love this girl. I believe in keeping it professional; if I try and it all falls apart, I can continnue just as I have with hiding my true feelings for her. Please help me! ****Thanks in advance for your comments.
Answers:
1. uhhhhhhh................just go and talk to her....like duh!!
2. first thing first, talk to her. You won't know unless you talk to her. But not all on the first conversation. Build up to it after a few; gain her confidence. Don't expose your feelings to her just yet, work on get to know all about her first. And whatever you find out, then you can go from there.
good luck!
3. Honestly, I don't dig office romances anymore (bad experience), and they tend to get a little sticky sometimes.
1. If you two did hook up and have any kind of disagreement, it could make it's way into the work place and cause tension that could make your jobs uncomfortable and less easy. Just a thought.
2. If you tell her how you feel and she's not interested, it could still make her feel uncomfortable, when she sees you around. What if she actually does like men? Just because nobody ever heard her say anything about liking a man, doesn't mean that she's lesbian/bisexual. You can't just go off of break room gossip and what you're co-workers have heard and haven't heard about her. That's a weak lead.
3. Let's say she does dig chicks and she's feeling your vibe,
if other people n the office find out, they could cause drama too. I'd look up the policy on inter-office relationships and take it from there. Don't put her job at risk or yours by doing or saying anything awkward that may make her feel uncomfortable or make her job feel uncomfortable. I'd approach her in a subtle way and try to feel her out, outside of work if possible. Tell her that you and a few other people from work are all going out for drinks (see if you can actually arrange this) and invite her to tag along. If she's digging you, she'll probably say yes, if not, she'll decline. Try again a week or two later, maybe a different approach, like "Hey,where are you going to eat lunch at today? Wanna ride with me, I'm going the same way, saves gas". Just a few thoughts, ya know? If she declines a 2nd time, take the hint and move on. That's the best advice I can come up with. I've felt like this before! If people really like you, you will know.You shouldn't have to make numerous attempts to get their attention. They just come around eventually, once they know you like them too, so if you've tried to give her the hint and you still can't get her off your mind, just say something, or say screw the subtle hints and just tell her. The worst she can say is "Not interested". Best wishes!
-Knowledge24
4. do not make haste. take time to think. sometimes decision taken in haste may be wrong. so first of all relax. take some time to sit with yourself in quite place, take deep breath. and see yourself. who you are and what you want. do this self research for at least one week . and your inner will give you answer and follow it.
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