My mom must yell at my brother twice a week about his grades, and he doesn't care. Just today she was yelling as loud as she possibly could at him, and now he's 'leaving' to go live with my grandma, or so HE says. He's 16, and doesn't seem to give a dammn about anything. I have to listen to it every night it seems like, and then my mom starts yelling at me sometimes. My family is so messed up. Some are most likely pot heads, pregnant at 16, or just weird. I hate it, and now I think my best friend is just telling this girl who's mean to me all the stuff I say to her and such. I have nothing to look forward to honestly, since cross country seasons over tommarrow. I don't know, I just don't know what to do with it all. Any help???? It really sucks now.
P.S. iff you need any advice e-mail me, trying to start a board with my friends.
Answers:
1. at least you got mom dad and brother with ya, wish I had em to be yelled at.
2. I think a good place for you to start is to share what's happening with your school counselor.
3. i can empathize with you i'm 13 and my sister is 17 and she and my mother fight a lot and i have walked out at times so looks like we have some similarities
4. well, jus tlook on the bright side, think of a way to make your family happy of you. as much as your mom yells at your brother he still isnt gonna give a damn. yenno ? its like you should show them that you can be much more different than them and be successful at something. if your brother can't do it then you can. you can just show them that your not following your brothers foot steps. just go your own way. even though you want the whole yelling thing to stop, it won't hes probabloy used to it. you can talk to him and see if he understands but then again he can always just throw away your advice. just remeber to be the good example and don't be like your family members. be different. it'll work out for you and your family (:
well thats the best advise i can give you. hope it works out (;
5. Honey - I'm sorry you are feeling so badly right now. Sounds tough. Honestly though, the teenage years are always tough for one reason or another. You sound like a bright girl. Try not to let things get you too down. The more you think about things, the more upset it will make you. Try to find something positive to focus on. If you can't think of something, create something. Find something you are really passionate about that you can put positive energy into. Then, hopefully, the other stuff won't seem as bothersome.Those types of problems may never go away, but if you take control of your life and turn it into something positive, then you've done the best thing you can.
Good luck, and take care!
6. Sounds like your mum's really stressed out at the moment. She might have a lot on her plate at the moment thats making her over react. It doesn't help if your brother acts like he doesnt care about his grades. My advice to you is to try and stay out of their way when this yelling occurs as you prob get yelled at when you get in the middle. When your mum calms down one time try telling her how it makes you feel, you never know she might ease up a bit. I know it gets hard when family's fight, try to find other things to occupy yourself with. Read books, watch TV, write letters to friends, join another sports team......most of all try to stay positive! The world can be hard at 12, trust me I know, it could be allot worse!
7. Well..honestly...your life could be a lot worse. You could be pregnant...with no education. Or you could be homeless with no education. You may not have it so easy. But...guess what..all of this that you are going through will only make you stronger. Take this part of your life as motivation. This should motivate you to finish school that way you can do for yourself. You need to get an education and not give up. Once you graduate you can look back and say...wow..I went through hell..but I made it. I didn't always have it easy either. My parents weren't like yours..but they were always working...They worked really hard for me and my brother to have the things we had...but we all suffered...because they weren't home, they were always working. I graduated...went to college..and now I have a great job and a great husband with 2 children. I never once asked anyone for a penny. I did it all on my own. I guess what I am trying to say is this...Please finish school..without an education...it will be really hard to accomplish anything..especially nowadays. You can do it...just hang in there!!! Good luck!!
8. yes that is bad, but not too bad, I just found out that my friends six year old daughter was raped. THAT'S BAD. Or think of the children that are dying daily, and have no family at all. Talk to your Mom and see what is wrong. You need to talk to some one and get some guidance. Where is your Father? and is it just you and your older brother? If your Mother is depressed or has anger issues, she will need proper help in order to be a better Mommy. If your doing annoying things knock it off.
9. Your mom is yelling because she feels powerless. Your brother doesn't give a damn about anything and your mom needs to be a good mom and get him to graduate high school and go to college so she can feel like she was a good mom. She doesn't know how to do that when he won't cooperate. He figured out that she can't really make him do anything and so she yells because she has run out of ideas of things to do to get him to do what she knows he needs to be doing. Yes it sucks. But...
You have much to look forward to. You can train so you are even better next year. You can find another activity or sport for the off-season. You can show these clowns how it is done and focus on your schoolwork and not falling into the traps they are. You can choose to look at the sucky part or you can draw your own beautiful part to look at and that is what you look forward to, Good luck. And talk to your mom, give her a hug, she might need one.
Get a new best friend and report this bully girl to a school counselor.
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