Me and the father of my first child have been together for 10 yrs. But for the past 5 yrs we have been at each other neck. We went from living together to living in separate houses , even states i stay in Fl and him in NY. I love him so much he is my heart. But the pain and hardship he has put me through has me mentally exhausted. He has physically abused , emotionally abused , plus much more. I def don't trust him anymore, and i don't know what to do. i came to Ny on vacation in july , and on the day that i was suppossed to leave we got into a huge argument and he caused me to miss my flight. I have been stuck in Ny with my daughter staying at my cousins house, Now the problem is that I slept with him again and now i am pregnant. i want to get an abortion but i feel so bad. The problem is that i know i have been raising my daughter by myself with no help from him, and i don't think its right that i have to raise 2 kids by myself. I have spoken to him to see if we could make
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1. 6 hours ago
this work, and to get an apartment for us to live in and with his help i will raise our kids , but his answer is that at the moment he does not have the money. He does not want me to get an abortion but at the same time is not helping me. and i know that i will get stuck. I know its wrong to get an abortion ( i have never had one) but this time i just feel that i am going to have a terrible hardshop , what do you think?
2. I'd keep my kids and would get rid of the loser husband.
3. keep the kids. they will see as they grow that you are the one that has struggled for them and in return your daughter will not really feel the need that she has to settle with anyone that treats her badly. you can do it even though it wont be easy. i am doing it also. i have two boys. 2 yrs apart and i am not with their father. you can do it. you will be happy that you kept your baby in the long run.
4. Honestly, if i was in your position, i would have even aborted the 1st child. I just feel that i should not have a child if my partner & i are not ready because i don't want them to go through what i went, with my parents not being ready. But if you think you can bring up your 2nd child alone without him, then have it. I wish you all the best.
5. What makes you think that anything will change. Get away from him, get the abortion and move on with you life.
6. No low life has the right to abusea woman in any way.Emotional,mental, and physical is all abuse.Has he raped you. You love him so much after what hes done to you; then you should also look at yourself as well. I think that you love him so much because of a few things; you would be financially screwed, no security, and no dad for your kids. So i,am telling you to leavr him as soon as possible. DO IT NOW******** You have slept with him again; whats wrong with you? Dont have an abortion, if you dont want the child give him/her up for adoption to some loving couple that cant have kids. Dont think with whats between your legs, open your mind and move on; and follow your heart. If you go back to this thing, then you dont deserve to have any kids. If he has assaulted you , then whats stopping him from assaulting a child; WAKE UP TO THE TRUTH, BECAUSE THE TRUTH HURTS.
7. Go to the state and have them garnish his paycheck.
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