Boys tell me that I speak like a guy. I wonder if this is why boys don't like me. They tell me i'm pretty, but they don't have crushes. I have a very girly voice, but it's just what I say that sounds like boys. I stopped cussing, but only cuz I really got in trouble at school, but I still say stuff like "nice", and I call everyone a "punk". I play soccer too, and I often scream a lot when we play a gme, so my voice is hoarse half the time. I tried to stop using those words, but they have become part of me, and I can't stop. It's hard!! I was just wondering if how a girl sounds has any importance on whether or not u find her attractive. Can I do anything to sound girlier, that isn't to stop calling people dude, or punk, or saying "nice" and "sweet" and "yo momma", which I say ALOT.
Answers:
1. No one can change what comes out of your mouth but you.
2. you know it is your potty mouth that makes you sound so rude, so just stop
small minds use small words
3. say girly things like.. that's hot lolz.. be like paris hilton
4. Voice is only one thing about u!
As a girl, you can attract guys in so many other things like wearing tight stretching pants, short skirts, sexy clothes...
Act more girly..
There are so many girl tricks that you can learn by looking around and watching some sexy girls
5. just be yourself thats what guys like the most. if a guy wants a valley girl then...pshh there are plenty of them
BTW "yo mamma"
6. Actually a lot of guys might like that. Guys may have an easier time talking to you, and connect more with you. and its better if you're being yourself than a "girly girl" I don't prefer girly girls at all, if i knew you I'd probably like you.
7. Sound is important, but I know how vocabulary can become a part of who we are and how it defines us. It maybe that these boys are either too shy to go out with you or intimidated. Try making the first move, if that doesn't work, find new boys to be around. You really shouldn't work on changing yourself for them.
8. OMG and you care what they say, eww, its not like they know anything you dint know years ago. Be you, talk you, and enjoy you because you,ll have this company for your lifetime and boys come and go.
Don't use insults and F bombs at school or at home. Its all about being smart about what we do and what it implies not just saying things because it sounds... cool.
9. Dont let anyone tell you anything different be yourself and that right guy will find u. trust me
10. Do not change you for getting guys.
What's next? What if you get a boyfriend and he does not like soccer? Gonna quit?
What if you like a food and he does not? Not gonna eat it any more?
Just be yourself. Cus if you want to. If that is you. Then, when you do find a guy, you know he likes YOU, not some made over version of something that looks sort of liek you, but does not act like you.
11. Be yourself and don't worry about how others percieve you. Being gentile wouldn't hurt your image though.
12. Your a blurter! Work on not blurting out whats on your mind so fast. So, actually at 14 comes the big lesson of "Attitude ajustment" so get one, please. So, even though you'll ofcourse not do it, but its free and will help you work on your inside is to join a youth group at your church. The kids do projects of volunteering and there is much to be gained for a person your age to experience some life. They have other young people there also and discuss social issues such as you ask about. You will mature if you are willing to expand your world and grow closer to God. PS. They say your like a boy cause your extraverted and brave.
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