Ok, so I met this guy a little while ago and I really like him. I mean really like him. I know he wants to ask me out at our homecoming dance but I dont know what to do. I like him so much and so the obvious ancwer would be yes, unfornetanly we dont go to the same school. Thus, I wouldnt be able to go and see him because I cant drive.(he can) The only way I could see him is if he came to see me and I dont want the relationship to be on his terms. Any help?
P.S. I get really nervous before I see him, any good tips for the nervs?
Answers:
1. 5 hours ago
ok the whole, "on his terms" thing is that I dont want to be limited to when he has time to see me...if that makes any sence.
2. Just ask him :) believe me..the guy i like lives 2 hours away and i see him like one a month
3. "I don't want the relationship to be on his terms."
You need to learn not to Think in Those TERMS. That doesn't mean you get in his car if you're at all nervous, if you haven't told your parents where you're going, etc.
When you like someone, you don't manipulate "terms" - you just be yourself, get to know him, let him get to know you ... the moment you realize you're trying to control things or, you realize he is trying to control things - the relationship is on the wrong track and - as a young person, the wisest thing is probably to chalk it up to experience, and move on.
4. Just talk to him,
5. Any tips for the nerves? Nope that's part of it :). You'll miss those feelings when you get much older.
How would the relationship be on his terms if he drove? I dont understand that one because with him driving, his terms would be picking you up and taking you to the dance which is what you want anyway.
Most guys prefer to drive a girl around as it feels more manly to do so. If you feel safer if you were driving, that's another issue and it would appear you're stuck...unless you know a friend with a car who will drive you there.
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