So i have two really good friends. But somehow no matter how much i know they love me, i always feel like im just there, or the third wheel.
They always go on vacations together, and if i ask one of them if they are going with the other they lie.
I've tried to tell them before how i feel but they're just like thats rediculas! that's not true and change the subject!
And they will always call me the others name.. but they will never call eachother me.
They always leave me out of things, and act like i had something else going on when really i didn't!
I honestly have no idea what there is to do! Cause i really don't want to stop being friends, and i really don't want to be the third wheel anymore!
Please help!
thanks!
Answers:
1. I think you really need to sit down with them and talk to them. Tell them how it bothers you and that it upsets you that they lie about not spending time with each other. If they were truly your friends, they would apologize and try to include you in a way where you didn't feel like a third wheel. That's the unfortunate thing, it always seems as though when there's three, two always pair up, leaving the other to feel like they're out in the cold. If they continue to make you feel like a third wheel, try hanging out with other people who won't lie to you and will make you feel appreciated.
Good luck to you
2. make some more freinds. if they miss u, they'll come along
3. This is not an ultimatum scenario, just don't let it get to you that they are closer to each other even with shady excuses to exclude you. Theres many good qualities you three share but the seem to be closer on sync.
So dont stop being friends with them, just explore the world around you, join clubs, got out with other people, shop for sexy hot clothes, do a diet fab, go to a coffee shop and meet new people.
And be happy for your friends being close, but be happy for you because you will find someone just as interesting if you keep interesting doing the things you love.
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