Ok I have a BF i've been dating him for 8 months already my parents likes him cause he's a very sweet guy and very smart. So let me get to the point so whenever I wanna go out with my boyfriend my dad says you already saw him why do you wanna see him again and will I get very upset cause im 19 and I get A's all time in school so I dont know why they dont let me see him when i wanna so my dad and i kinda of get into a big arguement about him not letting go out when I wanna and if I go out I have to be home by 10:30 which is so early and well whenever my family are going someone I tell them I rather go out with my BF so my dad says that im against him and that I would chose my BF over him anytime and well He thinks I HATE him for not letting me go out which i do at times but I think is normal so when I tell him I LOVE YOU dad he just says ok like whatever So I dont know what to do or say to him anymore and the reason I say I hate him at times its cause he never lets me see my BF
Answers:
1. You are an adult. MOVE OUT!
2. My parents never want me to see my bf because they hate him and think he's not good enough for me, and I'm 18 and have been dating him for 4 years. That's why I'm moving out.
3. your dad is afraid of the guy because he trying to protect you from any thing that you would not like
4. Move out and date your b/f all you want.
5. Alright.... This will probably sound stupid.
Your father is having a hard time letting his "baby" grow up. Teenagers do not realize how hard it is for parents when they realize that their child has grown up!
The 10:30 is reasonable when you are living at home. I had a 11:00 time for my daughter when she was living at home and she completely understood.
You want to cut the "apron strings" and your father wants to keep those "apron strings" tied to a point. He is probably scared that his daughter will go off and do something stupid with this boy..... There is a saying, "Boy's only want one thing and it has nothing to do with talking". This is probably something that is on your father's mind.
Obviously, you and your father have a close relationship and your father is genuinely hurt. Think of something that you two use to do together all the time and set up a date with your father! Have a good heart to heart with your father... I do not mean a talk like "why won't you let me see my BF more"... I mean more like,,,, "Dad, you will always be my number one man, you are always there for me when I need you" Or something to that affect. You just need to have a good heart to heart with your father and not include the topic of your boyfriend.
6. We have three daughters and I can tell you their father would rather them never have a bf. Not because he does not love his girls he does and that is the problem, they are his little girls and will always be.
I am 42 and my father still refers to me as his little girl. It will not end until he is gone.
Why not work out times with your dad, such as bf comes by during the week and is gone by 10:30 and you get to stay out until 1am fri and Sat. this may help. Start planning to move out but make sure it is not for the wrong reasons, you are of age and should be looking forward to making it on your own soon.
7. yeah 10:30 may be a bit early but argueing about it ,wont make it better,as far as seeing your boyfriend anytime you want.as long as your under your parents roof you still have to abide by their rules ..unless of course youre going to start paying the bill instead,besides i wouldnt want my kid out at 300 in the morning id be sitting up all night worrying and then have to struggle staying awake at work the next morning doing whatever,as far as choosing your boyfriend over your family is plain wrong.your family took care of you when you were sick,im sure went out of their way to do things for you even when they didnt feel like it,see that you were taken care of ,ect.they were there when you were to young to take care of yourself and they will still be there when your boyfriend is long gone...treat your family with some respect and responsibility ...in fact find some ways to show your responsible,then maybe you could ask your dad (later down the road not now)if he might extend your curfew...if he say no ,dont throw a tantrum (that shows youre not responsible)..okay dad ,and then go your merry way,if nothing else youd make him speechless and have the last word for that one conversation.
8. Man, all this sounds so familiar. Parents like to keep a tight leash on their children. ESPECIALLY DADS. You need to sit down and talk to him some, he probably feels bad because your grown up now and seeing guys. He knows he cannot control everything you do and he is scared. Parents hate when their kids want to do nothing but see their boyfriend or girlfriend so you need to split time evenly. I know how hard it is to be away from a guy you care about, but remember this...spending too much time together can also hurt your relationship. You just need to take time, talk to your dad and tell him how you feel, that you still do put your family first. He is just worried your rushing into something your not ready for or something like that. Im only 21 and got married when I was 19. Im my fathers only daughter and he cried like a baby at the wedding and father daughter dance. Its VERY hard for dads to watch their babys grow up. Just think from his perspective some. I was just like you when I was younger but now understand my parents more since I have kids of my own. Just take time for everyone and remember where you came from. Hope that helps some. Feel free to email me anytime you need at kimsbabies07. Thanks
9. You are an adult so he does not have the right to tell you that you can not see your boyfriend again. Move out and live with him. You can also tell your mom how you are feeling about this but that is completely up to you.
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