I have a night light on and sleep with stuffed animals too but the bedroom is large and I get so scared. I have my baby's crib in there too and sometimes my friend Jessica will sleep with me. I am 20 years old. My friend says I have a phobia but when I sleep with my husband I feel so safe. Do you have any advice for me? Its hard for me to get a good nights sleep sometime with my husband and he says he loves me but that since I am unclean during my period I can't sleep with him because I will defile the bed. I told him I would wash the bedsheets everyday but then he got upset and told me not to quit being fresh with him. :(
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1. 6 hours ago
correction: it should say its hard for me to get a good nights sleep without my husband.
2. You need to grow the heck up. You have a child, quit acting like one. And quit treating your husband like your daddy and letting him tell you what to do. You got BIG ISSUES AND NEED BIG TIME THERAPY AS YOU ARE SICK.
3. Your husband has problems for even thinking to make such a request.....and you have problems for doing what he says.
You should sleep wherever you want and if he has a problem with something that's as natural as sleeping you married the wrong man.
I hope this is a troll.
4. LOL@ unclean...loooozin it here
5. Maybe you can put a seperate bed in the same room as his.
6. I think that you would both benefit from marriage counseling, ask some freinds that you trust for a good one.
7. It probably is not my place, but if I were you, and my husband told me that I could not sleep with him on my period, I would be quite upset! How dare him! you aren't having sexual intercourse. you are is wife! you are just sleeping in the same bed. as for sleeping alone, you either, have a phobia, as your friend said, or you are still not mature enough.
What happens if your husband leaves? You must be able to go on. You need to find some help to confront your fear and to get over it!
8. Y0U S0UND REALLY CHiLDiSH.. BUHT i GUESS Y0U HAVE "PH0BiA" G0 SEE A PSyCH0L0GiST?
9. Honey grow up. Perhaps you should have got out of your own nappies before you started folding any.
10. Okay, that's just weird! Is it a cultural thing?
11. Your husband sounds like a big girl. What a *****. I sleep with my wife and I even "sleep" with my wife during her period. No real man would let a little blood stop him. Hasn't he ever heard of tampons? Kotex? You would never stain the bed and he is a big baby. If you hadn't already had children with him, I would tell you to leave the looser. You poor girl, you have to be with such a baby for the rest of your life.
12. sounds like you both need to grow up.
13. Yeah get a seperate bed in the same room and use his pillow case as a trash can. Then hen can say you are UNCLEAN.
14. YOU BOTH NEED HELP.having your period is natural him being a putz is not get help soon or your kid will be screwed up as well.
15. You sound like you got married too young and never had a chance to grow up and develop into a healthy functioning adult. A fear of the dark is not your only problem if you can't even stand up to your husband and demand some sort of compromise. That is, after all, what marriage is all about.
16. umm.... Are you his wife or his concubine?
17. What cave did your husband come from? Women are not dirty just because they're having a period. You are married to a jerk and where you sleep is the least of your problems. You have a lot bigger things to be afraid of in a marriage like yours.
18. You should have discussed this prior to getting married. You have to realize how silly you sound. My husband views that time of month as an off limits time as well but not even close to your situation! He is just a guy, but to tell you to sleep somewhere else, he's an *** deary. Im sorry for you and your child. I hope he does a 360. I praise the guy who said he "loves" his wife during this time. That is a true man in love.
19. So thats not good is it?. Its not my place to tell you to break up, because i know that that is hard to do.
But if I could just take sides here, I take yours. And the person that really needs to grow up is your husband. He has some manning up to do, and these things take time.
Well my best advice is to let him know that it hurts to be put out of the bedroom just because its your time of the month, u know, anyways,
GOOD LUCK :D
20. "unclean"!!!
Who does he think he is?
We sleep with our pet in the bed and I bet our dog smells better than your husband does in the morning!
Try using a decent tampon and not telling him next time you sleep and then point out to him who is making the most mess on the bedsheets.
21. What kind of a husban is this guy? You need to do something about your phobia. Get help. Your husban don't have all his ducks in a lake if you no what i mean.
22. Why won't he let you sleep with him? Is he afraid he will contract PMS? LMAO
23. Wow your husband sounds like a bastard. Defile your bed. What a freak. I would be more afraid to sleep with him then sleep alone. What about when you guys have sex? Do you have to strip the bed and wash the sheets before you pass out?
24. .GET HELP NOW!!! not for your sleep habits but for your marriage. or you can always "sleep" with another man lol then he would want to sleep with you "dirty" or not. he's a jerk and you need a backbone.
25. UNCLEAN?????????
The man is a loon.
I fear you may be for putting up with such nonsense.
26. You are twenty years old????
Why are you married to a childish man who sounds like he is living in the dark ages?
That old belief about women being unclean while having their periods has been outdated for a long time.
You need some counseling and your husband needs even more.
Grow up dear, you have a baby to be responsible for and don't need a husband who treats you like dirt. He does realize that if you didn't have a period, you wouldn't be able to have children with him, right?
Get marriage counseling quick, before you get dragged backwards into the the past.
Good luck.
27. Omg ur kidding right? First off u need to see someone to help you with ur phobia cause if I was ur friend I'd be so annoyed by you. Second of all ur husband is an idiot he needs to stop treated you like a dog on her period its not unclean its life. If anything men are unclean and women go through enough b-s like cancer and have to worry about all these diseases for a man to tripp over blood he's a A- HOLE anyway please get it together
28. What culture is he from? In many places a menstruating woman is thought to be unclean and still is isolated until she has finished so his aversion could stem from how he was raised although I think he's really mean. Tell him if he can't bother to sleep in the bed with you then he needs to sleep on the floor next to the bed! Sounds like a nice compromise.
I don't think there's anything wrong with being scared of sleeping alone! My husband's in the military and has to be gone a lot so I certainly know how you feel sleeping alone. I'm home alone for a week every three and I'm still scared of the dark although you'd think I'd be used to it by now.
29. Troll.
I'm going to list some of your other questions so people have a point of reference. Some are amusing some are disgusting. All of them posted by a troll.
30. OK now I'm seeing a pattern , the husband calls you by his 1st wife's name , your not allowed to sleep with him in his bed if your on your period , you must be in 9999's to waste 5 points per BS question. So heres my answer to you.
The whole point of Question's and Answer's is having a place we can come and vent our problems , ask for help and take on board the advice given and be able to process the BS from the real people wanting to help the situation , while not all Question'ers actually heed the advice after processing it and use it to make their live's less stressful and more comfortable / manageable a lot of people do actually move on after the advice is given.
When I give advice it's usually based on a double sided coin , I tend to give the side where the problem is real and does need tending to and advise moving on and giving yourself time to mourn the loss of a marriage or a loved 1 and then taking up some hobbies like art classes or theatre group's , what ever is needed to rebuild the self esteem and the inner soul.
On the other side of the coin I give the negative , where I dont totally believe 100% that the question is actually viable or true and honest , like when someone just gets bored and basically writes a question that sounds like something out of a story they read some where.
Question'ers dont feel the need to give name's , not their real name's anyway's , so they use letter 's like L or J , or acronyms like Joe and Martha .
For this question I am afraid even though it may get me many thumbs down , I feel that this question is not real.
31. Awww, poor baby.(Troll or not) It is nothing wrong in being scared to sleep alone, that's the way you are and your husband knew that when he married you, therefor...he shouldn't let you sleep by yourself just because your at your period. Promise him you won;t stain the bed and use a tampon AND a night pad and you'll be safe, you won't made him mad. I am so sorry for you baby. Just...i don't know, can you leave him? He is supposed to protect you and take care of you even in this century, it is nothing wrong in showing your wife you love her by protecting, supporting and take care of her when she needs you too.
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