After talking to a guy you like that so happens to like you back;
When you realize that you are "genuinely" not ready for a relationship and want to remain good friends: do you ever think of him as a potential in the future or do you try hard to bury those feelings in hopes that they never resurface again.. Even after you tell the guy you still like him a lot and he did nothing wrong to cause this.
Answers:
1. You're not ready now. Let the man live his life.
2. I think I would keep him as a potential, if I really did like him and wasn't ready for a relationship.
But if you are waiting for this girl....I wouldnt' suggest it. She could be immature and it could be a long time before she wants that.
Or she may just be using that line to get out of the relationship easily.
I suggest you ask her this question.
3. Maybe later when she wants a relationship, she'll keep you in mind.
4. i just stay friends. the feelings might resurface, but if nothing materializes, then i just kick back & chill.
5. If i really do like him then obviously I'd think of him as a potential in the future. But because i am not ready I'll try to ignore my feelings for him. And when I'm ready and the feelings are still there we'll hook up but if not then it's too bad...
6. Oh...those darn women! Wouldn't it be easier if they just....blew away! (line from Monsters Inc. regarding the dreaded paperwork!)
Looks like you need to move on! Don't try to understand her! It'll make you frustrated, possible angry and ruin your friendship.
It may hurt, but for now...you just need to leave her alone.
Sorry to burst your bubble...but that's what I would do(i didn't do that in the past and hurt a friendship because I liked her so much).
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Sorry you're going through it...but that's the way life is sometimes.
Best of luck to you
7. It is perfectly possible to go your own way and catch up again after months or years when you are more ready for a relationship but it is better to go ahead with your life able to make your own choices and respect the other's freedom to make a choice too. Keeping in touch may be a nice way to tell you still care but depending on how deep the feelings are it may be easier to "drop out" for a while and find out when you will be ready for a relationship.
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