How did you play detective?? I bought a digital voice recorder to put in his car...any ideas about that??
You don't know the situation, so please don't say how wrong it it to snoop around or if i feel like this there is no point blah blah, like i said, there is always more to the story....so leave those comments to yourself...thanks!!!
Answers:
1. There are a few cool gadgets and things you can buy on the net to catch cheaters, like tracking devices, video recorders in cd players, etc.
2. You'll never hear me say not to snoop!.
I caught mine out because the silly man left his mobile here when he went to the shops, and the women called.
I then looked in his phone, and found a ton of sms's from her.
So I started checking his email's etc.
We worked everything out, ( that was a long time ago) ............But I still snoop every now and then.
PS......this is cutting a very LONG story short....
3. Phone records are always a dead give away.
4. he brought her home with him thats how i caught him cheating
5. I want be mean like most it's a shame how many r fast to judge, but I didn't have to catch him. He started to accuse me everytime I wuz late and usually when they accuse u of cheating is when they are cheating themselves, and of course abstinence from sex is always a clue....
6. My story on how I caught him is to long what it boils down to is I had a gut feeling and went w/ it and found out everything in less then 4 hrs including who it was w/, the dumb b_tch left a cigerette burn on the passenger side car door and I went w/ that...hey u do what u got to do when they give u legit reason to think their cheating...
Good 4 u!!
7. Drop in on him at different times of the day
8. As nuts as this sounds, I would go through the detailed phone bill and any number I didnt know, I did a reserve phone number search OR I would just call whoever and be like who is this? and of course you get the WHO THE HELL IS THIS!? And be like yeah your number was on MY husbands cell phone LOL! Emails, check the miles on the car?? LOL! Ask him questions about when you suspected he was cheating and keep rephrasing the question or ask him little detail questions... like if he said, oh I had to stay late at work... you say: Oh ok... so why did you have to stay late? He says the boss said I had to do blah blah... and you say so where was so and so co-worker... why did the boss say you had to stay late again, I forgot what you told me earlier... and keep doing that with out sounding too suspicious and see if his answers keep adding up... just a battle of wits...
9. This isnt a real answer to your q but an ex of mine who got with another person after me but didnt tell me about her and we were still having sex when we felt like it (as i said i didnt know about the other girl).
To cut a long story short a friend of the guys told the other person and she rang me up (She has balls!!!!!!!!!!!) and asked me straight out for which I replied yes to having sex with him.
Anyways that night I met up with her and then she arranged to meet him in her car for which i was hidden in the passenger foot well and she went to see him and said she had heard that he had been seeing me and to which he flatly denied, so she made an excuss and came back to her car and then the both of us got out of her car and went to his and she got in the front seat and I got in the back and she asked him again if he had been seeing me to which he could not deny the fact.
When we told people about it we could of made a fortune coz there were alot of people who wanted to see it.
Unfortunatly it hasnt stopped him cheating on girlfriends as I still hear what he is up to.
But looking on the bright side myself and the other girl are now best mates and she is married to my hubbys best mate
10. Let's starts at the beginning, My ex worked construction. One night he said he had a meeting. The thought crossed my mind " he is dress like he is going on a date". But me being the trusting wife just let it go. But kept it in the back of my mind. A few days later he had a company party at our house and I was being the best hostess. I noticed my ex was in the pool with his boss watching me. I asked is there anything wrong? Oh no. Mean while I notice most of these people were trash. But again I know working in the sun and be hard on a person physicaly. The pary ended. The last guest was not gone 15 min. he told me he had to go to the office. His office was a small trailer on a work site. So I was home alone and waited and thougth I will go over there and see whats going one. I did'nt see his truck but around back I saw his truck. Also I check his office and It was locked. There was a bar (he was working on a golf course) I went into to bar and he was sitting on stool. When he saw me he jumped up like he had been shot. Little did I know he was seeing the bartender. He almost pushed me out side and told me he just came in for a drink and accused me of checking up on him. At this point I was finished giving his the benifit of the doubt. A few days later his bosses girl friend call me and told me that he was seeing the batender and a dancer at a local strip club.
I went to the back Got copies of bank record. I could do this because we has a joint account. I saw where he had used the ATM machine at the strip club and had taken out money. I found out he was giving as much as $150 to these dancers. I still did not say any thing to him. Next I got a copy of his cell phone call. Again we had a family plan and this was easy to do. The next week end I went into his truck while he was sleeping and he had phone numbers in the glove compartment and behind the sunvisor. I took the cell phone list and compare how many calls he had made. I blocked the numbers and called some of the numbers and sure they were strip clubs and other numbers I would ask for a girl and she would say this is she and I would say I just wanted you to know this is his wife.I am not sure what he has told you be we are not divorced or seperated. You can drive by and see both his truck any my car in the drive way.
I was not finished. Yet I was ready to confront him., He lied told me that it was some conections with real eastate that he was checking into. ( we just bought a new town house we had only been married two years)
After this he told me he was under a lot of stress and need time alone. I agreed. I took my two children.(who were not his thank God) and went to my mom.
During this time I was working at A Doctors office and my manager asked me what did I need to do. I explained that he calls to check on me two or three times a day. When he call just tell me I went to the back to make a deposit. When he call then the office called to let me know to call him. Mean while I had a truck and five people packing up my things and my chidrens things. Since we had been married on two years most of the things were mine. I left his clothes, a couch his mother gave us and a love set in the den that we bought. The kitchen was empty, childrens rooms empty master bedroom empty beacaue it was my funitue. He closes was left on the floor.
I know he did'nt think I would leave him. But I could tell you so much more that I found out from his family after I left him. If I had only Known before I would have never got invovled with him. But he is a player and knows how to look for women who are alone and have childen and need help. I am sorry this has been going on but I was a long story to tell.
11. There is always this gut feeling when your man is cheating. The #1 all time dead give -a-way is if he stops having sex with you. Then you know something is wrong. He may seem cold and distant emotionally. I usually check the phone. Ask questions, and pop up at random times when he isnt expected me. You'll be sure to catch him.
Or if he thinks your somewhere else, just take some time out and follow him and see where his where abouts are.
12. They sell a device at radio shack to tape your home phone lines, get the cell phone bill that is the key to all unanswered questions.....
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