My boyfriend and I have talked about this before in regards of his mother. Now don't get me wrong he loves his siblings very much. He's the oldest and is the only male child out of 4 children. However, he resents his mother for giving more attention to his sisters. Now mind you there is a 2 year difference between each child. Anyway, he stated that he was treated like an adult. He basically took care of his sisters like they were his own children. After school he would start dinner for them and help them with their homework while his mom worked nights. His biggest complaint is that his mom always criticized him no matter how much he helped around the house. He even got a part job during high school to help his mom with the bills. Now that he's in his late 30's he barely speaks to his mom and when he does some how they end up arguing.
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1. 6 hours ago
She was separated from his dad. And from what my bf has said, his father was in and out of his life.
2. Yes they did.
3. I graduated from college the same time my older sister did. She became a nurse and she got a huge bouque of flowers, a cake and a necklace with the nurse symbol on it. I got my name on the cake and that was it (because I became a lowly pastry chef)
All parents try to keep things even between their kids but rarely can they achieve this when all children feel equally loved and cherished for all their own individuality.
4. That's a sad story. i guess his mother treats him or taking the anger out on him. Are both of his parents married or separated. If they're not, then she forgot that he's kid too and deserves to be a kid not a father role model in the family. but if that was me I would very much appreciate what he does and all of the contribution of the family. She must be stressed and no one to talk to so she tagets him as an adult to lay out all anger, rage and depressions.
5. Nope because I don't have any siblings, I am an only child! However, My mom is the middle of 3 sisters and I don't think my grandparents showed any favoritsim with them , at least as adults. They did with us grandkids though. 3 girls ( funny huh? they had 3 daughters and 3 granddaughters). I was the middle and their favorite and my cousins knew . I have to agree that your bf was treated unfairly.
6. Mine do. I am the middle child even though I just two minutes older than my twin. I'm 18 and it's been going on since I was little. They are much muuuch harder on me than my older brother and younger sister. I get really good grades at college, I got a good job offer, I drive well and take car of the cars, I get scholarships, I'm pretty well rounded. But, it's never good enough for them. I am blamed for my siblings' problems like I made them do it. I feel like I have to babysit my sister cause she does a lot of stupid stuff and my parents blame me for it. They also tell me how much I'm ruining my life because of my boyfriend because he isn't as great as they want him to be. I'm already making plans to move out because I've had enough of this. Years I've been mistreated and I don't want to sit back. I'm 18 and they still try to control every aspect of my life. My relationship with my parents and family is slowly thining to nothing but there's nothing I can do when they shut me out from everything the 4 of them do.
7. yeah my mom shows favortism for my "picture perfect" sister.
8. Well no since my brother became a cop and all that good stuff..and I chose a life of serving God my mom and dad haven't picked favorites...they did for a time though I'll admit but that passed
9. Somewhat but I think that because I am the oldest and my mom knew what I was capable of so she didnt have to worry about me. She worried about my siblings more.
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