Whenever I'm with my friends, I'm always myself--confident, funny, and a sociable person in general.
However, whenever I'm in an environment where I'm not really good friends with everyone around me, I suddenly just clam up. I don't even know if it's shyness, because I know that I can just go and easily strike up a conversation with someone around me...but I just don't feel like it. It's just...I don't feel like talking to the people around me, yet I want company.
I'm just a quiet type of guy unless I'm around my friends. I've had a couple of people mistake my behavior as a form of arrogance, when in reality I'm just quiet. Maybe I'm just introverted like that.
How can I get myself to open up and convince myself to meet more people?
Answers:
1. thats normal hon, just try to not take yourself so seriously and dont be afraid of how you appear to others, then youll be free to be as confident as if you were among all your friends, just takes a little practice you can do it :)
2. hrmm, do something crazy, but first the tell other person that your shy and you're just trying to break the ice.
3. Alas, there is no way because it's a matter of how your brain is wired. Read the book "Introvert Advantage", it will explain a lot of things about who you are and why, and what you can and can't do about that. In the end, you just have to settle for being comfortable with who you are. As an introvert myself, who also struggled to become different, I found contentment once I stopped fighting it and became comfortable with my limitations. I tried A LOT of things to make myself extroverted. I went to acting classes, I joined clubs, I forced myself into unfamiliar situations with unfamiliar people, thinking I'd get more accustom to it and become more extroverted. The plus side is that I am not afraid of speaking in public or meeting new people, the minus side is I never became an extrovert. Read that book, accept who you are, that's the path to being content with your introverted nature.
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