Recently my girlfriend explained that she kissed another guy the week before. I don't know how the kiss was like, but I'll try and ask later. Either ways I forgave her. But now this week she ends up spending more time with another guy similar to how she was acting around the guy she kissed before. As of right now they don't seem to be doing anything but my question is should I take action?
If so, then what would be considered the most appropriate choice for an action?
Answers:
1. It doesn't seem like she wants to be commited to an one-on-one relationship. Move on, it looks like she has already.
2. You do need to take action. Have a serious yet calm convo with her. Let her know that you're uncomfortable with her recent actions. Of course she'll say there is no feeling towards the otehr guys (typical response)...But just give her about another week or so, and see if her behaviour stays the same or becomes worse. But be very careful, woman have a tendency to get sneaky when they know their mate has suspicions. Just a heads-up!!!
3. I agree with the previous poster....the fact that she kissed one guy, and told you, now she's hanging out with another, and she told you....the writing is clear....she doesn't want a one on one dude.....move on and find the one for you!
4. You should withdraw and go inward to understand clearly what you expect from her. Then you should decide together the terms of the relationship. If you cannot be in your integrity with the terms she is willing to give to you than you should end your involvement peacefully and lovingly.
5. The question is---Do you want to go on like this? If the answer is yes, then do nothing. If you don't want her to see this other guy anymore then tell her that it feels disrespectful to you and you wouldn't do anything that would make her uncomfortable. If she wants to be with you then she will stop seeing him. But, be prepared for her to say that he is her friend and she will continue to see him. At that point, if you have made the ultimatum, then you need to leave the relationship.
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