My ex bf and I broke up in July. I am due anyday with his baby. I'm pretty much over the emotional hell I went thru the last 4 mos. I'm doing well with my preggo despite his total abandonment, no calls to check on me etc.. Well, I saw him at the gym this past Sunday. He was leaving as I was coming in. We chatted for a minute, very casual. He asked me how the baby was, put his hand on my stomach etc.( I still have some feelings for him I guess) I asked him if he wanted to know when I had the baby. He said to call him and that he would come to the hospital. Now I don't believe him b/c he has lied to me many times in the past and we broke up when I was 6 1/2 mos preggo (said he wasn't ready, he was pretty cold about it). Then he gave me this really long kiss which blew me away. I don't want him back, but this just confused me. What gives? He has been horrible to me in the past and I know he will never change. I'm 34, independent, able to support me and baby. Why is he messing w/ my head?
Answers:
1. 6 hours ago
I've been staying away, no calls or anything b/c I know it will mean bad things. It was hard at first but I don't need him.
2. you SO want him back. waaah.
3. Because you are letting him.
4. i think he just realizes he was wrong. he feels sry. prob?
don't talk to him about it. just enjoyyyy
if you REALLY wanna say something about it, just say "hey, thanx for coming back and helping me."
or something along those lines..
hope all goes well
5. He still has feelings for you .. it's just that he's not ready to be a father and since you've made the decision (good for you by the way) to have the baby ... you should do what you set out to do, have the baby and stay away from him ... sometimes guys just can't handle the fact that they are responsible for getting a girl pregnant and show how immature they are by running away. He still has feelings for you but will not act on them unless you see it his way.
6. It's probably just his way of saying sorry. Plus, he's probably a horn dog. Kudos for giving the baby a life and meeting the challenges of being a single mom. You sound strong. Someday you will meet a man who deserves you and your baby.
7. Because he enjoys it. Dont let him. Allow him to be there for the baby but not for you. You and him are through, but he will always be that baby's father no matter what. Remain distance from him, like dont let him kiss you like that or anything..thats my advice...YOu should find someone who respects you. GOod luck. Congratualtions on the baby. Dont let her/him watch TV. Except for an occasionaly Barney or soemthing as a treat. talk to them alot and earn your trust so that when they grow up, they will know that you love them, and that's one less child into drugs and alcohol.
8. Men...especially the confused ones....tend to do that....Don't get too caught up in it cause he WILL hurt you again.
9. Because he is a f***ing ***hole... that was like reading my own story... you're going to have emotions for him he is the father of your child, but just because you're the mother of his child doesn't mean he will... my X kissed me, and told me stories of maybe one day but not ready now, and no matter how "cool" he was about it still makes him a d**k because too bad that he's not ready, get ready, I had to be ready... same with the "I'll be at the hospital" yep he was there, but where is he now??? I said the same thing too about not wanting to be with him, but when I had my daughter I realized that I wanted an "intact" family... So yeah, he's messing with your head, run, run like the wind... that was all about massaging his ego cuz he knows he's not a man for shirking his responsibilities...
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