Hey. I'm a twenty-something professional man who is very well educated, ambitious, outgoing, and goal oriented. My problem is that I can't seem to make any friends or get into a relationship.
I've returned to the town where I grew up in order to give back to my community. While I'm excelling at work, I'm not particularly happy because of my lack of friends (and also, my job doesn't challenge me intellectually). Though I do a lot, and I am involved in so many activities, I feel that people still don't want to get close to me. I find this odd because when I return to the places where I went to college, it is very easy for me to make friends (and people actually want to hang out with me). I'm looking to move away, but I'm saddened by this: in my town, if a person is single, they are made to feel deficient and abnormal. I'm tired of this culture of low expectations, and with being happy with very little. What can I do?
Answers:
1. It sounds like you're from the same kind of hometown that I'm from, and I'm betting that you were 'born on the wrong side of the tracks'.
I know in my home town, you are pretty well born into your 'social standing'. If you were born poor, you're always going to have no social standing in their mind. If you were born middle class, that's were you're going to stay unless you really mess up. If you were born rich, your going to be top dog in my hometown.
Poor people from my hometown have become doctors, engineers, lawyers, etc... and tried to move back, and the supposed upperclass people won't accept them because they remember when they were poor kids. But my hometown upperclass will easily accept some doctor who wasn't raised here, and they have no idea of his background.
It sounds to me like you need to stick with your plan to move away. I've moved away, and live in a much friendlier place now, so you can probably do the same.
Good luck!
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