My husband is working second shift and it is killing me.?

1. just be glad that he's working!

2. Look at this way, You get to watch the TV shows you want to. You get to be on the P.C as long as you want to. You get the entire bed to yourself.

3. He might have to work to make sure everything is paid for so be glad you have someone like that who cares so much about you they would work a second job. Would you rather spend all of your time with him living in a cardboard box or live in a nice apartment and not have as much time together?

4. I'm sorry your lonely, but you should appreciate that you have a husband who is a hard worker & willing to provide for your family. Fill your time with something else you enjoy, reading, painting, friends....ect. Hopefully it will help the time alone to go by faster!

5. Its hard, but try to be optimistic (and realistic). Do you really need this job? Chances are, you do- I would just be glad that he does have a job...and focus on the good things, you said you still have fun weekends together. Appriciate those! And he's always coming home to you, its not like you don't see him after work,right? Try not to be so negative--there is hope in sight. Maybe his shift will change-or yours will- nothing's permenant. Hang in there~!

6. How bout if you get the same shift, so you can be home at the same time? Or if you aren't working, adjust your sleep/wake times to fit his schedule. Make his shift your "daytime". When he gets home, that's your shared "evenings", then sleep in the day. If it's hard, for the first couple of weeks before you are used to it, can use a mild sedative, close all the curtains (dark, thick ones), wear earplugs, unplug the phones, etc. Otherwise, you'll just have to make the weekends really count.

7. Married life is full of sacrifice and compromises.If you want a better standard of living than your husband has to work long hours. You have to realize that he misses you as much and he is the one who is working .Stop complaining you have a hard working responsible man .You should be happy for that alone.

8. Get a job on the same shift.

9. i feel for you im going threw the same thing i hate it

10. I hate 2nd shift to but sometimes it's just a reality. Look at it as a way to do things that you can't do with a man around and then DO them. Do things you enjoy. Do extra things for him. Read books. Learn something. Get a hobby. Write him a love letter. Take a little nap and stay up with him when he comes home.....

11. Sure it is tough but consider this. What if he was in the military and had to spend 15 months overseas with out you. Let me tell you about lonely. You have it made so stop whining.

12. I don't have an answer because there is no real question. However, I plead that you do not put yourself in a position to find other company for the evenings (not saying you would). After 13 years and children my wife has decided to find (or has already found) someone else. Beg him to change shifts if you find yourself thinking bad thoughts.

13. Have you told him how you feel? If he knew this he would probably feel really good that you miss him and maybe would start looking for another job/shift. We have all been there, though, and we all have to make sacrifices to get by.

14. Ummm, be glad he's not in Iraq for 15 months like some of our husbands are.

15. If you don't have children, you need to sleep with him during the day and stay up all night cleaning house and the housework. lol

16. i know it's hard. but sometimes it's good because you get to miss each other. i know when my husband had to work for a week 20 hours a day from the normal 8.5, i missed him sooo much that when the week ended we appreciated each other Even more.

17. i know it's hard to be away from him. i'm the same. i don't enjoy doing things without my husband. we do everything together, even if we just have to go buy some milk we go together. but sometimes u need time to yourself. u don't see ur husband much, so u miss him, if you're in a position where u can choose what shift to work, then yeah u can change ur shift to me same shift as him, if not, then you should take up some hobbies. maybe go to some classes, he's working two jobs so that u can have a better life, if u're not struggling with financial issues, then talk to him and see if he can let one of the jobs go. i hope it all works out.

18. Yeah, its tough without him though isnt it? And the weekends are only two out of seven days... Sometimez It just helps if some one understands your situation right?, i dont know how well this will actually answer your question. ----- Well hey if he works the second shift voluntarily, get him to quit. Best Wishes :D