I am EXTREMELY shy.
So in halloween, I asked if I can go friend 1's house for the first time, so we can get to know each other and friend 2 is comming.. I saw friend 2's comment on friend 1's myspace and she said "so shes (me) comming.. What are we even gonna do?" cause i think she thinks im boring. And friend 1 said "idk". I think they dont like me cause im too shy but I talk to sometimes and i just wanted to get to know them... should I dump them and cancel it? Also, when I see friend 1 & 2 in the hallway, they look like they dont even see me!
Or should I go to my other friend's house? Lets call her friend 3.. She hangs out with me alot, even though Im shy and it makes me talk to her more. We eat lunch together and talk about alot of stuff. Shes happy that Im comming to her house. She even putted me on her top friends. read details.
Answers:
1. 6 hours ago
Problem is Friend 1 and friend 2 hates friend 3 and they sometimes tell me not to hang out with friend 3, they sometimes stare at me when i hang with out with friend 3. but friend 1 & 2 doesnt really show that they're interested in me that much so what are they even doing? ..Friend 1 and friend 2 are best friends and I dont think they're ever going to include me..
2. 6 hours ago
Friend 3 is always happy to see and would always ask me to hang out or be in her group.. friend 1 & 2 are total opposites..
3. 6 hours ago
friend 1 and friend 2 doesnt even bother acknowledge that im on their buddylist in aim. and talks to me once...for 3 months?
4. Friend 4. This is an option. If you don't like anybody in your current friends, go make some new ones, and you can overcome shyness. Just buildup the courage, i used to be not shy.
Not a great answer, but i hope it helps
5. Then friend 3 is the one, the problem you have is your shy as you said and you want to belong to as many groups as you can but in the end whats the point? friend 3 likes you as a friend and always wants to hang out with you so you made a good friend, sounds like friend 1 and 2 are just messing you about and i get that from the myspace comment and the ignoring you in the hallway, but friend 3 seems to regard you highly so i say go to her house, best way to overcome shyness is one step at a time and usually its female friends who are the hardest people to become friends with when your shy so you done well, go for it, you dont wana go to friends 1 and 2 on halloween and be bullied by there games do you? when you could be sat spending a great time with friend 3, i know where i wud be, question is where do you wana be?
6. It sounds to me that friends 1 and 2 are not nice to you at all! I think you are too nice to put up with them treating you this way. Just because you are shy doesn't mean that they can be rude!! That is no reason. They need to learn how to respect you for who you are or I would say that you shouldn't be friends with them at all. Have you tried to tell them how you feel? If you did and they are still being distant, then I think you should just forget about them. It sounds like friend 3 is a good person though. I am sorry that you have to go through all of this. Life is tough and there are so many mean people out there. Hang in there and keep smiling!!
7. Sounds like "friends" 1 and 2 are like those girls in mean girls..
and friend 3 is your true friend.
dont stand there and be treated like that by two fake friends or possibly ppl.
i say cancel and go to friend 3 friends house. seem's she really like's you. and about being shy i was the same way and with time and life experience i have grown out of it for the most part. if they dont like you for you, leave them behind and get ppl in your life who love you for you!
8. Dump one and two. It seems three is a better option. Maybe with three you can open up more and overcome your shyness and meet more friends....
9. Forget that you ever even knew "girl 1" and "girl2" ( I didn't say friend 1 or 2, cause they're not your friends). Go on and chill with "friend 3". And she should also forget about girls 1 and 2, cause they're not her friends either. Anyway, you and friend 3 should become bff's.
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