I'm 15 and all last year i liked this girl. I didn't find out til like a month ago that she liked me. i mean i had a clue but she finally told me. this past weekend we hooked up. now i dont know what to do. i mean ive liked her so long that i dont want to just hook up and be done. i think that she really likes me i . so, i was with my friend tonight and asked him what he thinks i should do. i was really about to just call her up and ask her out. then i asked him to txt her and say that i wasnt with him. he told her that i was really thnkn bout goin out with her and she said that she doesnt know if she wants a bf right now. he then asked if it was me or just she didnt want a bf and she said she didnt want a bf. I feel like if i talked to her bout it she would have a different answer. but idk what to do cus i dont wanna ask her out, get rejected, then have our friendship ruined. What do i do? when do i ask her out? Help!!
Answers:
1. Tell her how you feel!
2. I think that she prob just doesn't want to talk w your friend about it...I don't think she wants to be rejected by you either!!
Good Luck!! : )
3. hmm... well though there's a chance you could be rejected. i'd talk to her.and let you know you do like her etc if she still says she isnt ready for a rel. there's always a chance u all could still be friends. and who knows maybe sometime in the future when she is ready u may just be that guy.
as hard as it is, dont get down about it. your still young and tons of life to experience.as cliche as that sounds. just let her know u are interested in getting to know for her.
4. I think you should tell her how you feel. If the friendship is a good one it will survive...all friends end up "liking each other like that" at one point or another! All she can say is no, and at least you will know if she likes you or not and if not that frees up time for you to find someone who likes you like that :) Good luck!
5. first of all dont ask her out on the phone.
do something wya cuter
my boyfriend asked me out with my favoirte flavor ring pop haha
and if she said that she just didnt want a boyfriend..then that doesnt mean she doesnt like you.
plus she said she doesnt "think" she wants one
so there is a possibility.
just hang out with her alot
have her get to know you and you will know when the time is right to ask her out, just give her time dont rush it.
6. Just try and be her friend for a while.if she wants it to go further later she will tell you dont give up just give it more time.
7. Try going out with her and a group of friends, kinda like a group date. Let her see how sweet you can be and maybe she will decide she really does wanna give you a chance.
OR
You could just go out as friends. Doing some homework together, or grab a quick bite to eat. Something that doesn't add stress or pressure to either of you. And don't make it too extravagant because you are only going out as friends.
8. At 15, you shouldn't get your friends to talk to girls for you. If you guys already hooked up your friendship probably wont go that far from here, if I were you id keep going on the way you are as friends, and if you feel like shes open to having a bf then go for it...if she says she isn't ready then your relationship wont last long, so if your looking at a long relationship then wait. In the end this is just high school, its all about experience and this is just part of learning, even if you guys don't end up going out you'll learn and move on, if you don't move on from it see a doctor cuz its just a point in your life you have to make a decision about a girl, there will be so many more but you should still do what you think is best. go with your instincts and play everything by ear.
9. It wouldn't ruin your friendship, it might make it awkward for awhile though. Ask her out and if by chance she does say no, don't shy away from her, just keep acting like you always did---eventually she will too and things will be back the way they were in no time.
10. I have been where you have.. there was this cool girl back in 9th grade who was new'ish and didnt really know anyone so we together and saw a movie and made out. next monday i see her, we talked and stuff and it was all normal like every other day. I ask her out, she says 'im not into haveing boyfriends'. I didnt really talk to her for awhile because it was so akward, the point is I lost out on hanging out with this girl because I had to go ahead and ask her out.. so never try to presure someone or anything because if they say they dont want a boyfriend, they mean it. If you ask her its going to make things alot differnt so dont even risk it and go along for the ride till you get real close (REAL close).
11. Ask her out, don't use a friend to play games with her. That's not fair to either than you. If you really like her, ya have to take a chance. If you do go out with each other, there is a good chance that will ruin a friendship, but only temporarily. good luck.
12. You may be rejected, you may be accepted. you ahould be talking to her instead of having your friend talk to her. People lie while they are texting half the time. she could really like you but didnt want to tell your friend. I mean i wouldnt if i was her. but its your desision her answer could go both ways! Good Luck!!
13. Why do you have your friends doing something that you should be doing? You will learn as you get older that you never want your friends to get involved in your relationships. So now that you have him in the middle and she knows that you want to ask her out and it's already out in the open apologize to her for not stepping up to her yourself and wait to see if she talks about it any further.
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