I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend now for about 4 months. I love him (he was my high school sweet-heart), but I'm in college and am dealing with the pressures of being 3,000 miles away from him and home. We constantly fight over little things, and I feel our love for each other fading. I only have a year left of school and I don't want to give up now. However, I feel as if he doesn't care about "us" as much. Should I give it up, or try to make it work?
Answers:
1. I don't think so, because right now, it isn't working. If you break up, and you were meant to be together some way, somehow, you will end up together. That is just how love works.
2. what do you think?you already mentioned signs that he's not into "us" anymore. maybe he's seeing someone else where he's at. i'm not into long distance relationship anyways.
3. Use your heart!! <3
4. take a break because once he stops caring its over, but if you guys survive this you can survive anything that will come in your way...
5. I am in a relationship where my man and i only c each other every other weekend. We've been 2gether for 5 years. At first i didnt think i could handle it, but everything is good. The one piece of advice i can give u is this...It takes 2 to make 1 relationship work, and if he does not care about u 2 being 2gether, it wont work. I suggest u have a heart 2 heart talk with him 2 c where he is with the relationship so you'll know if its really worth it or not. Good Luck!!
6. Well, I'd consider the fact that you two were highschool sweethearts. You sound like you really care about him. I commend you for taking your education seriously though. I know girls that graduated from highschool, went to college for 4 years and became housewives and nothing else, and the ones that said "Screw college", disregarded college completely and wanted to become housewives too. Something about finding a successful, educated man, and not having to do anything, but let him take care of you, while disregarding your degree and the fact that your husband cheats on you at the same time.
I'm rambling....I wouldn't give up on him, but my first and only relationship, only lasted 2 months, due to the distance between us (his job), so I know how you feel completely. You've outlasted my relationship and you knew him since highschool, so the love between you two is pretty strong. I met my b/f at a "Hot Dog On A Stick". Call him up and have a serious conversation with him. He's probably just really frustrated with the distance and needs your attention. You're taking it as him not caring about you as much. He still loves you, absence makes the heart grow fonder, but sometimes "when the cat's away the mice will play" and he may have had time to explore other options, so you never know, Just being real.
A taste a freedom may have changed him a little, if you've been gone for months at a time without seeng him. You just have to finish school and go back home and see where you two are at that point in time. Finish school and worry about him when you get home. Not much you can do 1,000's of miles away. You are trying to better your life at the moment. Please do something with your degree after you graduate, besides sit in on a shelf and brag about it, like most people. I know you will. Best wishes!
-Knowledge24
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