I have a big problem with my sister inlaw. My hubby is military, we were stationed overseas, just got back to the US. We're living with his parents until we can move on base. On Saturday my sister in law asked if I wanted to help her buy a purebred lab for her parents for xmas. I agreed, spent all sunday long looking for a breeder ($600 for a pup), found one, made an appt for monday to come and see the pup. Before we went there I asked her if she had enough money. She just got fired from her last job. She said she had enough money to pay half. We went to see the pup. I have to admit we both fell in love with her and decided to buy her. All of a sudden she said she couldnt pay half and asked if I could pay more. After a long dicussion I ended up paying $550, she paid the rest. I dont know why I did it. I thought it would make her parents happy. We went home and everybody was excited about the new pup.But things turned around pretty badly.
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1. 6 hours ago
My sister in law got all the praise, nobody thanked me or my husband.
My hubby and I had no chance to touch the pup or play with it, she took full control over it.She told her parents the pup costed half of the true price and said she paid half and my hubby and I
paid half. I got very upset but didnt had the nerve to deal with it right there,I was to shocked. Later that night I told my hubby how much the dog was and how much I paid. He was mad. Next morning he told his mum. She said she knew that we probably paid more but didnt expected it to be that much. That was it, nobody is really talking to me anymore. I am the bad one now for opening my mouth.
Worst thing is it seems as if the dog wasnt an xmas gift for my parents in law.
I think its a dog for my sister in law, since she has it all the time and controls who can see it and who cant.
I feel so used and upset. I am mad with myself for buying the dog, cause I had bad experiences with her in the past
but still help her out.
2. 6 hours ago
My husband always said she is a user and abuser, he said not to worry since we move out in a couple of days. But I dont think its right, I mean if I would have known she wanted a dog I would have never bought it for her.
I dont know what to do?!
3. I think you need to talk to your husband and see which side he stands on...It sounds as if he's on your side. And it sounds like your real problem is not him...nor your sister-in-law...its HIS parents...So I think you need to back up..don't push the truth on them too hard...Let your husband do it...Let him have a nice conversation with his parents and show them how wrong his sister was and how much you're hurting....I've dealt with this before from my cousin...Don't try to argue or even prove your point to his parents...Cause that's still their daughter and they will have a natural instinct to take her side...No matter how wrong it is...Just let him do all the talking.
4. You learned a costly lesson. Drop it and never let her do that to you again. Your conscience is clear so walk away knowing your in the right and learned what never to do again.
5. If she is controlling the dog, and who sees it and who can touch it and feed it, I would ask her if the dog is for her parents or if she is planning on keeping it for herself, seeing how the parents havent really spent much time with their own damn dog. If she says she's going to keep it, I would bring up that you would like to be reimbursed for the $550 you spent on the dog as you were under the impression that this dog was for your inlaws and you would like that money back so that you can buy them something for xmas.
Tell her that it is going to be a lump sum, or $100 a month or whatever until she has paid you back.
If this is their dog, just make sure the parents know this is their xmas present.
And you already know this, but she set the trap for you and let you fall right in. Next time, use these newly gained smarts and dont fall in!
6. Fool you once, it's her fault. Fool you twice, it's your fault. Never trust her and allow yourself to be fooled by her twice.
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