I'm very misunderstood by others...i'm seen as "innocent" but in reality, it's not that true...
Not saying i'm a "bad A S S" and yes, i am a good girl at heart. I grew up with hardcore strict, old-fashioned, and overprotective parents - sometimes a good thing, sometimes it's hard...but it's made me who i am today...i've got STRONG values and i'm a smart girl...being the oldest has made me grow up more than kids my own age but others think something else...i'm different than all the others girls...
i'm fun, get along w. the guys and girls - not high maintinence yet have newly refine tastes, simple - a "girlie" tomboy :) I'm not easy, i don't get drunk, i NEVER give it up...i'm ambitious - I wanna be a successful, powerful career woman who's very in charge and in control of her own thing - classy, sophisticated yet charming. When it comes to love, i honestly believe (esp. at a young age), it's a waste of emotional, mental, and physical energy if you won't be with someone for a long time or better yet, a lifetime. I'm a one man woman and would rather wait however long it takes to find that ONE guy who completely respects me and not just treat me as a princess, i'm picky for my own good and yes, I'm a virgin b/c i choose to be one.
is it weird that i'm different...sorry, i'm in my 20's...confused of course and just need reassurance and encouragement
Answers:
1. 7 hours ago
I just feel stupid b/c all these girls...they won't "say anything" but like me, they used to have overprotective parents until they turned 21...they'll be girls and "kinda of" rub it in and say, "oh really? wow...sorry...that sucks...why? drinking's not bad.." just very LOOSE
2. Well to me you sound normal, your in your 20s at that age your bound to be thinking of the future in some degree, i too am in my 20s and have strong values and i dont seem myself as weird, just different, you have laid out a life you would like, there are over 5 billion people on this planet half or more of them done the same at your age or maybe younger, your normal dont worry, jus because people say this and that about sleeping around and drinking doesnt mean you have to do it, just be yourself you will find that 1 guy trust me and sounds to me like he wud be lucky.
3. Of course not and if I was a guy I would like a girl with a little classy but hard core drinker and I respect that you keep your self private, but maybe guys would like to experiment to see imf you are the one can't u give a chance, for a girl in you twenties you should be traveling to guy to guy like my niece and now after not many tries she got married and had 19 children.
4. just like me. i don't think you're weird, but , then again, i am, so idk. not really, lots of ppl are like you....
5. Um, u sound normal to me....probably cuz u sound like....me....lol. I sometimes i ask myself this question, but i know their's nuthing different about me. I am who I am, and you are who you are. You have values, and alot of girls don't have that. And I too, am a virg...because i want to be, and i'm comfortable with that, and i'm happy with that. somtimes i look around, and i realize im not doin wat everyone is doing, and i'm like, wow, i'm really in the small percentage, but there's nuthin good to wat the crowd is doing. I say, as long as your comfortable, and happy, your perfectly fine
6. I think for being 20 you have your priorities set, and that is good. You do not want to be like the other girls. You have the right idea, enjoy life now, and men can come later. The other girls are fake and demand attention. When they are knocked up in a year or two you will be able to have fun, and won't have to worry about a baby. You Go Girl! I bet your parents are proud to have a smart daughter.
7. If you are too concerned with having only one guy your entire life, you're not going to find him. Short relationships give you a feel for different types of guys and you don't have to fall in love to have someone as a boyfriend. Additionally, everyone acts a certain way around people that they don't know, and they act differently when they're alone or with their friends. If you judge that a certain guy isn't good enough for you, you may only be judging how he portrays himself in public, as opposed to how he really is.
From what I can tell, you're expecting this one guy to simply come out of the blue one day and show you respect the way that you want to be respected. That's not going to happen. I'm not saying that you should be the town whore, or that you even have to have sex, but you should date different guys for weeks and even days at a time just to get a feel for them. Looking down your nose at every guy that tries to talk to you, thinking that you know he's not worth your time is just going to make your search for Mr. Right that much more desperate.
My opinion, you have to be with a bad guy to know if and when you have a good one, and you have to get hurt to know how to avoid pain. Mainly because a lot of people don't have the ability to reflect, and doing it with relationships is even harder, even more so if you stretch it over a long-term period.
8. 7 hours ago
I just feel stupid b/c all these girls...they won't "say anything" but like me, they used to have overprotective parents until they turned 21...they'll be girls and "kinda of" rub it in and say, "oh really? wow...sorry...that sucks...why? drinking's not bad.." just very LOOSE
9. i'm honestly impressed with how you've chosen to live.
reassurance and encouragement?
be strong. being different isn't weird. it's just being different. you choose what to do and other people should respect that. it's hard for them to understand, but you have different values.
thanks.
10. Wow you sound amazing! I've always felt different to other guys in a similar way. Be proud of it - you have high standards because you are worthy of them. Stay focused and don't feel you have to be like everyone else. I wouldn't say it's 'weird' to be how you are - you've been brought up well and it's how young people should be. Good things come to those who wait and all that. I understand the 'innocence' thing - I used to get it a lot. But children are innocent and you are not a child. You're old enough to make up your own mind. It's difficult when people try to change you because they think you're impressionable...whereas actually you're probably stronger than they are. Anyway, go you! Don't lose heart over it!
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